How to be Kedar

okay. I’m going to start making sense in my posts. I promise.

sometimes I feel like I’ve been chasing after a rainbow, and when I finally get to the end, there’s no pot of gold. sometimes I’m afraid that everything I’ve worked hard for will get broken. do you ever get that feeling too?

a map with a big red ‘X’ holds a promise that there is a hidden treasure. But it doesn’t guarantee that there is a hidden treasure – so when you go on that epic journey and find out that there was no treasure, you’ll be disappointed.

that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go after treasure. in life you have to take risks to get anywhere. with risks, sometimes you can get unexpected good things or unexpected bad things.

life is about moving into the ‘unknown’ territory. take a moment to think about this: are you afraid or uncomfortable with something? that’s a sign that you need to face it!

first of all, what have you got to lose? the problem with fear is that when you’re really afraid of something, you feel like you have a lot to lose. that’s just your brain messing with you.
well try listing the things that could go wrong. then look over each one and ask yourself if you can handle it.
a good thing to do is ask someone who has been in a similar situation.

next, you have to prepare yourself. don’t spend too much time in preparation – some people keep preparing and never get anywhere.
have a good idea of what you’re getting into, know the major information and skip the minor details.

finally, and this might be the hardest part, go out and do it. sometimes you need a push, a motivation.
you can ask your friends and family for support.
look at some inspirational people – read about their stories – there are a lot of courageous people.
most people are afraid of what other people will think – get over that fear.
a good idea is to think about a time when you’ve succeeded in the past at doing something you thought was risky.
in my case, I was afraid to jump off the diving board. but I overcame that fear.
I was also afraid of asking out girls. but now I am very charming with the ladies.

remember not to make big changes all at once.
you need to move in little steps.
chart your progress with a calendar or a planner.

the most important thing is to become comfortable with this thing that once made you feel uncomfortable.
it doesn’t matter so much whether you failed or succeeded.
just the fact that you were able to take that risk is impressive.
be proud of yourself!

after that, take some time for reflection. did everything go according to plan? did you learn anything?
if you failed, what went wrong? how can you do things better next time?
do you feel like you changed after this experience?

okay, so if you followed all of those instructions, you’ve conquered one risk.
now you have countless risks ahead of you in life.
go out there!